Most spiritual gift guides seem to be aimed at women. There are plenty of candles, bath products, pink crystals and novelty gifts, but not much for a man who actually has an interest in spirituality.
That doesn't mean he's necessarily looking for something complicated. He might meditate, burn incense, keep a crystal on his desk, read tarot, or simply enjoy playing a drum or singing bowl after work.
The trick is finding something that feels like a proper gift rather than a joke present.
So we've put together some options that are useful, well made and easy to live with. There are small gifts under £20, larger presents for someone who already has a practice, and a few combinations if you're buying for someone and don't quite know what to choose.
Quick picks
If you don't have much time, these are good places to start:
- For most people: Black Tourmaline Six Face Obelisk, £17.99. A polished black stone, 11cm tall.
- For someone who needs to switch off: Small Steel Tongue Drum in Atlas, £38.99. Easy to play, even if you've never touched an instrument before.
- For the desk: Night Watcher Obsidian Pendulum, £19. A dark obsidian and copper pendulum with a good weight to it.
- For an incense lover: Medium Hamsa Mango Wood Backflow Burner, £29.99.
- For a big present: Medium Gong in Stand, £223.99.
- If you're completely stuck: our free gift finder can suggest a crystal based on his birthday.
Spiritual gifts for him under £20
Dark crystals
If you know he likes crystals but don't know which one to buy, darker stones are usually an easy starting point.
Black tourmaline, obsidian and tiger's eye have fairly neutral colours and tend to look good on a desk, shelf or bedside table.
The Black Tourmaline Six Face Obelisk (£17.99) stands 11cm tall, a desk-sized piece with a polished, matte deep black finish and faint striations. In crystal practice, black tourmaline is the go-to protection stone, associated with grounding and calm, and it's often the piece that wins over people who say they're not really into crystals.
The Shadow Seer Obsidian Pendulum (£19) combines a polished black obsidian globe above a clear quartz point, terminated at both ends, with silver-tone detailing on a fine chain. Obsidian is volcanic glass, traditionally associated with grounding and protection.
See our guides to black tourmaline, obsidian and labradorite if you're not sure which stone suits him. There are more shapes in our obelisks and points and crystal spheres.
Runes and pendulums
These are good gifts for someone who likes having something to handle rather than just another object to put on a shelf.
The Black Onyx Rune Set (£15) contains a full set of rune stones in a printed cotton pouch.
The Night Watcher Obsidian Pendulum (£19) combines copper with an obsidian pendulum. It has a good weight in the hand and works well for someone who is interested in pendulum work or simply wants to learn.
The Tiger Eye Orgonite Pendulum (£7.50) has tiger's eye at the crown, above cast layers of chakra stone chips and metal shavings in a 3.5cm faceted resin point. It weighs 20g, so it swings slowly and settles fast, and tiger's eye is associated in crystal practice with courage, confidence and clear sight, making it a good choice for practical questions about work and decisions.
Have a look at our rune sets and runes and pendulums for more options.
Spiritual gifts for him from £20 to £50
A backflow burner
Backflow burners are particularly good gifts because there's something to do with them.
You light a special backflow incense cone and the smoke travels down through the burner rather than rising into the air. The effect depends on the design of the burner, but it can be surprisingly relaxing to watch.
The Medium Hamsa Mango Wood Backflow Burner (£29.99) is a 23cm mango wood tower with the Hamsa, the protective open hand, carved into the front. Smoke from a backflow cone drops down the face, over the Hamsa, and gathers at the base.
For someone who likes darker designs, the Skull in Hand Backflow Burner (£18.99) sends the smoke through a skull.
Backflow burners need hollow backflow cones rather than sticks, so the Plant-Based Apple & Cinnamon Backflow Cones (£2.99) are a warm, soft choice.
If the smoke isn't flowing properly, our guide to why your backflow burner isn't working covers the usual problems. You can also read our backflow incense burners guide or browse incense holders and burners.
Incense
If you know he likes incense, fragrance is worth thinking about before you buy.
Some people prefer sweet or floral scents. Others go straight for sandalwood, oud, resin and other deeper fragrances.
Satya Black Crystal (£2.99) is Satya's premium hand-rolled masala stick, from the house that makes Nag Champa, with each stick burning for about half an hour. Aromatic Oud Incense Sticks (£2.49) are plant-based, with a dark, woody, smoky-sweet oud character that makes them the most evening-suited of their range. For another deeper option, try Aromatika Dragon’s Blood (£1.50).
The Small Cast Iron Ritual Pot (£14) measures 8cm across and 10cm tall, with a pentagram on the side, a lid and a side handle. Its solid iron construction takes heat, making it suitable for loose resin, herbs and small fire rituals that a bowl can't safely hold.
If you're unsure whether he'd prefer sticks, cones or resin, our incense sticks versus cones guide is a useful starting point.
A steel tongue drum
This is one of the gifts we'd seriously consider for someone who says they want to meditate but struggles to sit still.
A steel tongue drum is straightforward to play. The notes are arranged so that you can hit different tongues without having to know scales or music theory, and the result is usually pleasant even when you're just experimenting.
The Small Steel Tongue Drum in Atlas (£38.99) has a vintage map design and is a good size for a beginner.
The Medium Steel Tongue Drum in Atlas (£47.49) is the step up from the small Atlas drum. It sits lower in pitch, with rounder notes that hang about longer and suit slow playing, all in muted map tones.
Read our guide to why a steel tongue drum has no wrong notes if you want to understand how they're tuned.
The Medium Pro Djembe in Soul Sound (£34.99) has a deeper sound and rope tuning.
See the full range of drums.
A singing bowl
A singing bowl can be used at the beginning of meditation, during sound practice or simply as a way to mark the end of the day.
The Mini Singing Bowl Gift Set in Red (£29.49) comes from Nepal with a cushion and wooden stick, so you don't need to buy anything else to use it.
The Root Chakra Singing Bowl (£24.99) is made from brass and is associated in chakra traditions with grounding and stability.
For a larger bowl, the Earth Powder Mandala Buddha Singing Bowl (£34.99) measures 16cm across.
Choosing a singing bowl online can be difficult because you can't hear the individual bowl before buying it. Our guide to choosing a singing bowl you can't hear first explains what you can look for instead.
See the full range of singing bowls and tingsha bells.
A bigger crystal
The Madagascar Labradorite Stone (£32) in the medium size weighs 250 to 300g and measures 8 to 10cm, with a polished face that shows flashes of blue, green and gold across grey stone as you turn it. It fills your palm and sits happily on a desk or bedside.
A mala for meditation
A mala is a string of 108 beads used in Hindu and Buddhist practice to count a mantra.
The 108 Bead Rock Crystal Mala (£25.99) is made from clear rock crystal, strung in Ahmedabad with 6 to 8mm beads on a 60 to 80cm strand that you can wear as a long necklace or wrap several times round your wrist. Clear quartz is the all-purpose stone in crystal practice, often chosen as a first mala.
The 108 Bead Black Agate Mala (£25.99) has polished, deep black beads. In crystal practice, black agate is associated with strength and protection.
The 108 Bead Carnelian Mala (£27.99) features warm orange to deep red-amber beads, with no two quite the same shade. Carnelian is associated with courage and motivation.
Our 108-bead mala guide explains how they are traditionally used, and there are more in our mala beads collection.
Something practical
A gift doesn't have to sit on an altar.
The Tiger's Eye Chips Crystal Water Bottle (£21.59) is a 500ml glass bottle with tiger's eye chips in the base. It's a useful option for someone who spends time at the gym, in the office or travelling.
See all our crystal water bottles.
The Crystal Glass Tea Infuser Bottle (£30.99) holds 500ml and combines borosilicate glass with a rose gold cap, a removable stainless steel infuser for loose leaf tea and an amethyst sealed into the base so it never touches your tea. A neoprene sleeve keeps it comfortable to hold.
Browse our artisan tea range for more.
Luxury spiritual gifts for him (£50 and up)
A gong
If he already meditates, does yoga or enjoys sound, a gong is a serious present.
The Healing Gong in Stand, Medium (£223.99) is a 35cm gong hung in a black albasia wood stand, ready to play as it arrives. Strike it softly and it holds a long note that fades slowly. Strike it hard and it fills a room. It suits a home practice room or small studio, and the Large Gong in Stand (£244.99) offers the 50cm option.
Gongs have long been used in ceremonial and musical settings in parts of Asia, and they're now also common in yoga and sound practices.
A shamanic frame drum
The Hamsa Shamanic Frame Drum (£53.49) measures 30cm and is held in one hand while you strike it with the other, producing a low, round thump you feel as much as hear. The Hamsa, an open hand with an eye at its centre, is painted across the skin, and the drum comes with two beaters.
A larger singing bowl
The Large Buddha Singing Bowl Set (£84.99) is a 14cm black and orange bowl supplied with a wooden striker and cushion.
It's a good choice for someone who already uses singing bowls and wants to add another to their collection.
You can see more options in our sound healing range.
Choose the gift around him
Sometimes it's easier to forget the word "spiritual" altogether and think about what he actually enjoys.
If he works too hard
Something he can use at the end of the day makes more sense than another decorative object.
If he works too hard, the Medium Hamsa Mango Wood Backflow Burner (£29.99) gives him something to use in the evening, while the Small Steel Tongue Drum (£38.99) gives him something to play when he wants to get away from a screen. The Madagascar Labradorite Stone (£32) can take pride of place on his desk.
If he's a crystal collector
Don't buy him a basic tumble stone if he's already got a drawer full of them.
The Black Tourmaline Six Face Obelisk (£17.99) and the Madagascar Labradorite Stone (£32) both have more presence.
The Night Watcher Obsidian Pendulum (£19) is another good option if he doesn't already have one.
If you're starting from scratch, our guide to the five crystals worth owning first is useful. There's also the crystal meanings library if you want to compare stones.
If he's a musician
Go for something he can actually play.
The Medium Steel Tongue Drum in Atlas (£47.49) is an easy option. The Hamsa Shamanic Frame Drum (£53.49) is more traditional in feel, while the Medium Gong in Stand (£223.99) is the larger present.
If he meditates
A 108 Bead Rock Crystal Mala (£25.99) is a straightforward choice.
Add a Root Chakra Singing Bowl (£24.99) if he likes sound, or Aromatic Oud incense (£2.49) if he already burns incense.
If he has a dark sense of humour
This is where the skulls and darker tarot decks make sense.
Try the Skull in Hand Backflow Burner (£18.99), Requiem Arcana tarot cards (£9.95) and Black Onyx Rune Set (£15).
Our witchy Halloween guide has more unusual and darker pieces.
If he's interested in tarot
Requiem Arcana (£9.95) is a good starting point because it comes with a guidebook.
If you're buying his first deck, our guide to choosing your first tarot deck covers the main things to look for.
He can also try a reading with our free tarot reading, or browse our tarot cards and decks.
Choose something linked to his birthday
If you know his birthday, choosing a crystal around it gives you a simple way to make the present more personal.
Our free gift finder matches a crystal to his date of birth.
If he's interested in astrology, you can also look at his birth chart or choose one of our zodiac crystal candles based on his star sign.
Ready-made gift bundles
The desk set (£68.99)
The Black Tourmaline Obelisk (£17.99), Madagascar Labradorite Stone (£32) and Night Watcher Obsidian Pendulum (£19).
Three different pieces that can all live on a desk without taking up much room.
The total is over £40, so delivery is free.
Smoke and sound (£64.96)
The Medium Hamsa Mango Wood Backflow Burner (£29.99), Aromatic Oud Incense Sticks (£2.49), Plant-Based Apple & Cinnamon Backflow Cones (£2.99) and Mini Singing Bowl Gift Set (£29.49).
This gives him something to burn and something to play, without needing to know much about either.
The big one (£96.47)
The Medium Steel Tongue Drum in Atlas (£47.49), Black Tourmaline Obelisk (£17.99) and Crystal Glass Tea Infuser Bottle (£30.99).
A good combination if you want the main present to be something he can use, rather than something purely decorative.
A small note makes a difference
If you're buying a spiritual gift for someone, a short note explaining why you picked it can make the present feel much more personal.
It doesn't need to be a long message.
Something as simple as:
"For the ten minutes you get to yourself."
Or:
"You do enough for everyone else. This one's for you."
That's usually better than a generic message about finding your inner peace.
For more ideas, browse our full gifts collection. If you're buying for a woman as well, see our spiritual gifts for her or crystal gifts under £20.
Spiritual gifts for him FAQs
What is a good spiritual gift for a man?
It depends on what he actually enjoys. Black tourmaline or obsidian are good choices for someone interested in crystals. A backflow burner suits an incense lover, while a steel tongue drum or singing bowl works well for someone interested in meditation or sound.
What crystal is good for a man?
Black tourmaline, obsidian and tiger's eye are all easy choices. They're fairly neutral in appearance and have different traditional associations within crystal practice.
Is a steel tongue drum suitable for beginners?
Yes. The notes are arranged to work well together, so you don't need musical experience to start playing. It's one of the easier instruments to pick up without lessons.
What are good spiritual gifts under £20?
There are plenty of spiritual gifts under £20, including the Tiger Eye Orgonite Pendulum (£7.50), Requiem Arcana tarot cards (£9.95), Black Onyx Rune Set (£15), Black Tourmaline Six Face Obelisk (£17.99) and Night Watcher Obsidian Pendulum (£19).
What is a good luxury spiritual gift for him?
A gong makes a thoughtful luxury spiritual gift for someone who meditates, does yoga or enjoys sound, with the Medium Healing Gong in Stand at £223.99 and the Large at £244.99. The Large Buddha Singing Bowl Set (£84.99) includes a 14cm black and orange bowl, a cushion and a wooden striker, while the Hamsa Shamanic Frame Drum (£53.49) offers another option.
Are these gifts suitable for someone who isn't very spiritual?
Some of them are. A steel tongue drum, tea, incense, a water bottle or a well-made crystal can work perfectly well without someone being deeply involved in spiritual practice. Think about his interests first and the label "spiritual" second.
